Your Relationship With God: How-to

Your Relationship With God: How-to


The human race has always longed to have a spiritual connection with a higher entity. It started with Adam and Eve each having a relationship with God, before given the ultimate test of true love and faith. In the end, they were not faithful; they did not trust God and they didn’t obey Him. All of these things impaired their relationship with God and sin entered the world. Ever since, we’ve had a deep yearning to fellowship with Him.

Now how can we, imperfect sinful creatures, ever have fellowship with God, who is holy and perfect? Through Jesus Christ. God sent His son to die on the cross, paying our debts and allowing us the gift of eternal life. Not only did God give us this opportunity in the beginning with Adam and Eve, He decided that His love for us was so great, He sacrificed His son to die so that we may be forgiven of our sins and so that we may have a relationship with Him.

“And without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to him must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who earnestly seek him.” (Hebrews 11:6 NIV)

Having a strong relationship with God is crucial to being receptive and emotionally available to all of God’s Blessings, Lessons and Love. Like any relationship we cherish, we must make the efforts necessary to not only grow in the relationship but in maintaining it. A relationship with God is truly a gift and a blessing in itself. You’ll find that to begin and develop a strong relationship with The Lord, you’ll need to do a few things:


First, we must ask for forgiveness of our sins.

“I tell you, no! But unless you repent, you too will all perish.” (Luke 13:3)

Many will argue that receiving the Holy Spirit should come before repentance, but there are scriptures in the Bible which support otherwise. Sometimes people must accept Christ and accept the Bible as the inspired Word of God, to feel convicted of any sins. But in reality, it’s always the CONVICTION of your sins which brings you to God in the first place… But that’s a different topic.

“If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.” (1 John 1:9 NIV)

Receive the Holy Spirit:

This may seem like an obvious point but when you want a relationship with God, you have to accept and genuinely believe that He is eternally existent in three persons: The Father, Son and Holy Spirit. You must also accept that God sent His son, Jesus Christ, to die on the cross and forgive us of our sins.Only through Christ can you receive this gift, thus, allowing you to be close to Him.

Jesus answered, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me…” (John 14:6)


Another tip that may seem obvious to some of you is to pray. What I mean by “to pray”, I’m not talking about a quick “hello” and “please do this for me”. I’m talking about long, in depth, personal conversations with God. Talking is essential to any relationship, so how would that be different from God? All of this shows your love for Him.

The great thing about prayer is that there is no script.

There is not necessarily any “right way to pray.” But there are a few verses of the Bible which guides us in prayer. Check out this article on Prayer. It’s important to always be thankful to Him, for anything past and present and future. Other than that, let your heart pour. He wants honesty, trust, obedience and sincerity. He wants that special bond with you.

“give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.”(1 Thessalonians 5:18 NIV)

“Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.” (Philippians 4:6 NIV)

One thing you have to understand about prayers is that God ALWAYS ANSWERS THEM, but it may not be in the way you desired. You have to understand that God is all-knowing which means when He has control over your life and You pray for His Will, things will change that you may not understand.

“Pray without ceasing. “(1 Thessalonians 5:17 KJV)

Obey God:

Obedience starts with listening to God. Listen to Him through the Bible, His commandments and listen to Him when He speaks to you. Check out the Sunday Sermon Journal on listening to god to determine God’s voice. Once we start listening to Him, we start drawing ourselves closer to Him. There is no gray area of right and wrong in the Bible.

“If you love me, keep my commands.” (John 14:15 NIV)

Have Faith & Trust In God:

In order to obey Him, you must put all of your faith and trust in Him. It’s easier to think of the fact that God has never given you a reason to not trust Him. He is the only One in your entire existence who will never disappoint you. If you’re a new believer, this may be difficult for you. Especially if you’ve been surrounded by people who all they’ve done is hurt you.

“It is better to take refuge in the Lord than to trust in humans. “(Psalm 118:8 NIV)

Know that God loves you and He has shown His love for us in many ways. As you grow in your faith, you’ll learn this to be true.

“O Lord of hosts, blessed is the man that trusteth in thee.” (Psalms 84:12 KJV)

Like any relationship, it will not flourish if there is distrust.

Respect God:

Respecting The Lord is respecting His commandments.

“Whoever scorns instruction will pay for it, but whoever respects a command is rewarded.” (Proverbs 13:13 NIV)

Respect, similarly, ties into obedience. Like obedience, it is commanded by God. Respect in this case could be translated into fear of The Lord. The Bible talks about fearing The Lord, and whom do you fear which you do not, too, respect?

“Do not rule over them ruthlessly, but fear your God.” (Leviticus 25:43 NIV)

Although, I should mention the word “fear” interprets to: fear God’s wrath, fear His consequences and live respectively of that. Hence, fear and respect reside concurrently as a single concept. To fear God is to respect God, which is to obey God.

Be Honest With God:

Another seemingly obvious point but allow me to elaborate…

When you are dishonest with someone, clearly you don’t trust them. Typically dishonesty is not used to “protect” them or used in their favor in any way. God is the Protector, so without honesty, you simply don’t trust Him. That is why trust came first. In trusting Him, you’re able to be candid and to “let go”.

“If we claim to have fellowship with him and yet walk in the darkness, we lie and do not live out the truth.” (1 John 1:6 NIV)

“If we claim to be without sin, we deceive ourselves and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. If we claim we have not sinned, we make him out to be a liar and his word is not in us.” (1 John 1:8-10 NIV)

Honesty is imperative to any successful relationship, and your relationship with God doesn’t change that. After all, His pure honesty and truth has been written (The Word of God)- it’s out in the open. So then why wouldn’t you be the same way?

Bible Study & Listen to God:

It may seem like a point which could be omitted, yet the Bible makes it clear that we should study the Word of God.

“Keep this Book of the Law always on your lips; meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do everything written in it. Then you will be prosperous and successful.” (Joshua 1:8 NIV)

God also mentions Fellowship with other believers:

“All the believers were together and had everything in common. Every¬ day they¬¬ continued to meet together in the temple courts. They broke bread in their homes and ate together with glad and sincere hearts, praising God and enjoying the favor of all the people. And the Lord added to their number daily those who were being saved.” (Acts 2:44, 46, 47 NIV)

In fellowshipping with other believers, it opens your eyes to new perspectives, their personal circumstances, biblical advice, biblical references, etc., and you form what scripture calls a unity of believers in the church. Sharing the gospel with others, and them sharing what they read and learn with you, can only be beneficial to your study of the Bible.

Studying the Bible, in turn, helps us listen to Him. For what are we if we don’t even know His commandments? Sure, God speaks to us but He certainly still speaks to us through His written text. It’s important to know that any time God speaks, He will never contradict the Bible. Familiarize yourself with the Bible and become comfortable with it. The Bible is the greatest tool, resource, and guidebook you’ll ever have.

Listening to God, goes hand-in-hand with obeying God. Another way to listen to God is by studying the Bible and being knowledgeable of what He defines is right and wrong.

All of these points simply wrap up into one goal: developing and maintaining a strong relationship with The Lord. I hope that you feel enlightened after reading this and I hope you feel more empowered to get started in working on your relationship with God. Like your marriage works 100/100, it’s certainly not something you achieve and then stop. It’s a constant effort and you can guarantee that God is always giving His 100%!


About Crossing Paths Daily

Christian pro-life blog

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