Forgiveness- 9 Things to Know


Below are 9 things you need to know to get on your way to forgiving another person. Forgiveness is very difficult, and it usually means someone hurt you deeply. Forgiveness can be a struggle, especially if you’ve been carrying the burden of un-forgiveness for years. It’s not healthy for you nor conducive to your relationship with Christ to carry the weight of un-forgiveness in your heart. Please take a moment and reflect on these 9 tips. There are FIVE scripture verses to follow!

    Prayer and a close relationship with God is the first step into the forgiving process.
    Next, identify not only who you have to forgive but for what. Sometimes there are multiple people we resent.
    Realize the truth behind forgiveness. Forgiveness is not vengeful, nor does it justify what the other person did or didn’t do. Forgiveness does not mean that you support or condone their actions, nor does it mean you even understand them.
    Understand that forgiveness is not always confrontational and it will always involve God. People may not ask for your forgiveness, apologize or even realize that they hurt you. If you feel comfortable with talking to them about it, pray about it first so that God can give you the right words to say. Just because they hurt you, never makes you less imperfect in your life.
    Forgiving their debts means to look past the person and seek to find the good in them. Instead of holding the grudge(s) to determine how you feel about them, try to look at them differently: at their good qualities.
    Let go of the emotion that comes with un-forgiveness. By letting this go you’re able to look at what has hurt you as something that you’ve detached yourself from, thus, separating yourself from that pain.
    Realize that you have your own faults that need forgiving. God forgives you daily, when you repent.
    Never seek revenge. God is the only one who has the perfect revenge for anyone and any situation, and we should never take that upon ourselves. It will not help you. Understand that the greatest, more effective “revenge” will be to live your life in fulfillment and not let anyone take that from you.
    Be prepared to forgive someone more than once. It’s not uncommon that someone will hurt you, maybe for different reasons, repeatedly. But just as Christ has forgiven you, repeatedly, you’re commanded to do the same.


    For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. (Matthew 6:14 NIV)

    “Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven. (Luke 6:37 NIV)

    Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. (Colossians 3:13 NIV)

    “ ‘Do not seek revenge or bear a grudge against anyone among your people, but love your neighbor as yourself. I am the Lord. (Leviticus 19:18 NIV)

    Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord. (Romans 12:19 NIV)



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Posted on June 21, 2013, in Bible Learning and tagged , , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. Leave a comment.

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